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The Importance of Vacation

The Importance of Vacation
by Barbara Reinhold
Monster Contributing Writer
 The Importance of Vacation

So what's your vacation got to do with the bottom line? Everything, say industrial psychologists, but that fact doesn't seem to have penetrated very well in corporate America. The majority of people still take work with them on vacation in one form or another, and more than 25 percent of corporate people don't take any absolute downtime at all. So what's the problem?

Vacation Is as Important as Sleep

It's a little like sleep deprivation, according to physicians and psychotherapists. Just as lack of sleep impedes your ability to think clearly and act decisively, lack of playtime keeps you from taking in information effectively and seeing the totality of a situation. Lack of sleep and play both have a negative impact on your reflex time, general resilience and ability to ward off infection. Recreation deprivation also makes you cranky, and often more than a little critical of the people in your organization who do have the good sense to take care of themselves.

Every time I have clients who tell me their direct reports are slacking off, I respond with the question, "When did you have your last vacation?" Almost always, the answer is some variation of, "Well, I don't really do vacations that are about relaxing and rejuvenating. There's just too much to get done."

You're Hurting More Than Yourself

The bitter irony is that the vacation-deprived usually think they're doing everybody a favor by continuing to work themselves to the brink of exhaustion. But the reality is that they're costing everyone -- their coworkers, their direct reports, their organizations, their families and themselves. Work addiction is an insidious thing. Like other addictions, you usually have to bottom out before you can summon the courage to change.

Six Reasons for a Job Switch

6 top reasons for a job switch and what you must do before taking the plunge.

'I hate my job profile'

If this is the case, you will be less productive and will start deteriorating professionally as the job does not stimulate you any more.

Ask yourself what it is in your profile that you dislike. For instance, if you are a creative person, a mechanical job profile will stifle you.

You need to ensure that your dislikes are not emotional in nature. So just because you dislike the people your work with does not mean it is time for a switch.

One you are clear what it is in your profile that needs changing, talk to your seniors to find out if there is a possibility that the issue will be reconsidered. If not, then it is probably time to move on.

'I want more responsibility'

Hit a ceiling in terms of your career growth and don't see any future in the current setup? Or, the only way you can get to the next level is if your boss resigns?

Then you need to talk to your boss and explore the option of moving to a new department with increased levels of responsibility. If it works out, make sure that you are not just being lured away by the promise of a fancy sounding designation.

Don't be inhibited by starting afresh on a new assignment within the same organisation. It will work out well for you if it allows you to grow professionally and financially.

'I want to start out on my own'

Tired of working for someone else? Have a great business idea that you feel can turn big? If being your own boss appeals to you then that might be a good reason to leave the job.

But, do your homework. Don't just get excited and rush into something. Is there a market for your services/product? Have you got a solid business plan in place? Have you considered how you are going to raise money for it? Have you discussed it with professionals in the industry?

In your enthusiasm, don't forget that you will be letting go of the security and comfort associated with a steady paycheck. So be ready for a rough ride.

Consider the possibility of failure. Most new businesses fail or shut down in their very first year of operation.

'It's just personal'

Erratic shifts. Lots of out-of-station travel. Too time consuming with no time for the family. Expected to work seven days a week? Any of these could cause you to reconsider your priorities.

While that is alright, don't live under the illusion that everything will fall into place with a new job. You may have to make some important lifestyle decisions to achieve a balance between work-life and personal time.

It's a competitive world and you may have to take a cut in your salary to have more time at home or pursue other interests.

'I got fired'

You could get fired as most organisations adopt a performance-based culture with little tolerance towards non-performers. Don't be angry and waste time bad mouthing people and the organisation. Instead, find out the real reason and move out.

Or maybe, you are about to get fired with the company on a downsizing mode. Then it's better to walk out before you are left with no choice.

There are no foolproof ways to protect against job loss but you can certainly do the following.

  • Be calm and proactive, not reactive. Talk to your boss and find out if you can be relocated or be offered a different position. Storming into his office and shouting will not get you anywhere.
  • Stay positive. It can open new doors and opportunities that you may have ignored if not challenged.
  • If downsizing has started, aggressively take more initiatives to get involved in the organisation. Make yourself valuable so that losing you is not an easy option for the organisation. However, continue your job search simultaneously.

'I hate my boss'

The popular clich�, "People don't leave their organisations; they leave their boss", holds true. You are just a part of a large community who feels the same way.

Here are some typical bad boss traits:

  • Does not respect employees.
  • Does not trust colleagues.
  • Does not take or give any feedback.
  • Assigns too many tasks and sets impossible deadlines.
  • Is often rude and intimidating.

Before resigning, try these options.

1. Communicate your issues

Be specific. For example, just saying that you have too much work is vague. Instead, break down your tasks into the amount of time you will actually have to spend on each of them that week, and show your boss how many hours it will take. With a clear statement of required time, your boss is more likely to lessen your load to a reasonable level.

2. Make your boss feel good

This one is specially true if you boss has a big ego or needs to have his confidence constantly boosted. Work harder on him. If you have a good idea but think he will refuse, invest a little more time in convincing him.

3. Do a good job

This may sound obvious but when the quality of your work is good, everyone benefits including your boss. So make sure that you exceed your goals or targets, are punctual for all meetings, meet deadlines and are a brand ambassador for your company and project it well.

4. Anticipate your boss's need

If you know that the boss's boss likes graphs and analysis in a presentation, prepare them for your boss. You can say something like, "I know your superior likes graphical illustrations, so I thought these might make your presentation go a little smoother". If your boss is at a loss of words in a meeting, you might want to chip in and give him the support he needs. Be supportive, invest in building a rapport.

There is no such thing as the perfect boss. But if you are willing to acknowledge his/her flaws and strong points, then you are on the right track.

The bottom-line: Know your worth and if all else fails, don't feel dejected. It is time for you to move on.

Still in the Dark

I was reading the Bible the other night and was just reflecting and meditating about life. How have I been for the last twenty four years? It is no lie I really hate this particular someone. And it feels like my life have been dry, dull and dispirited. And it's because of that one person! Back to my readings.. one verse captured & struck me -- "Any one who claims that he is in light but hates his brothers is still in the dark." Then there was this great sorrow in myself. I hate self-pity but I can not really love this person. I can not communicate with him properly or talk to him with joy. My eyes are shut when it comes to him. I want to resign my job because I feel like I'm not being productive anymore. Every aspects of my life are affected. Can you call that escaping? Running away? I want to be a good Christian. I know I am.. but with all these, how can I?

Self-Talk, Results and Feeling Great


Monitoring your self-talk is an excellent way to ground yourself in
current reality, and to create a solid base for actions that
support your visions of desired results.

Psychologists call self-talk by different names: roof brain
chatter, ticker tape talk, monkey mind, gremlin thoughts, the
little reprobate that lives in the attic of your mind.

Whatever you call it, self-talk is the almost constant stream of
thoughts, beliefs, stories, judgments, and conclusions that run
through your mind. 

We usually don't know we're doing it.  Nor do we realize how
strongly it affects our moods and behaviours.  But we talk to
ourselves about our lives, our actions, other people, and their
actions.  We chatter away about what happens to us, what we think
about what happens, and what we think we shoulda, coulda, and
woulda done about what happened to us.

Unfortunately, this constant nattering mostly happens outside our
conscious awareness.  That's why it is difficult to monitor and
change it.

It is important to monitor self-talk because it affects your moods
and emotions--and your actions are motivated by your emotions.
"Emote" means, "to move." 

Unmonitored, self-talk--and the emotions it generates--can move you
in ways you don't want to move.

Again with Ex

It's been months since I last talked to him and that is through email. I can say that the feelings are really gone. There are no hate, anger, expectations or anything. I've finally moved on. Yes, I do miss him when I think of it. And memories are hard to forget. But I can truly say and feel that I am happy for him whatever endeavors he is in right now. I do wonder if he's got a girlfriend. But it's better this way. It's good we are friends again. I just wish him happiness and luck.

Memory Master

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A 31-year-old software engineer recalled the correct order of an entire deck of playing cards in 2 minutes and 27 seconds on Saturday to take the title of having the best memory in the United States.

Chester Santos of San Francisco beat two other finalists to win the USA Memory Championships in New York that saw dozens of "mental athletes" over age 12 battle through seven rounds of competition in a Manhattan auditorium.

"I'm in a good mood," Santos told Reuters after his win, in which he correctly recalled the 10 of diamonds to qualify for the World Memory Championships scheduled to take place later this year in Bahrain.

He attributed his win to spending a few hours each night after work practicing his memory.

Championship challenges included memorizing a long and previously unpublished poem, recalling the names of 99 people whose photos had been shown 15 minutes earlier and retaining a list of numbers 20 digits wide and 25 rows long.

"These people are not freaks, they are not nerds, they are people that have trained their brain," said event founder Tony Dottino.

"People are deathly afraid of losing their memories, but if you practice and use the right techniques, you can develop your memory at any age," said Dottino, a management consultant.

Finalist Daniel Naftalovich, 18, a New York high school student, who like Santos had just five minutes to learn the order of the deck before reciting it onstage in front of an audience, said visualizing a card or word was key to memorization.

Santos, who won the contest for the first time after five tries, said he matched a person, action and object with each of the 52 cards to help jog his memory.

Using these kinds of techniques, memorizing phone numbers "are a piece of cake," he said.

A Sudden & Risky Shift?

I know I have sure plans of going abroad. But I feel that it is not yet the time. I want to review and take the board exam for the second time. I feel the time is running fast so I have to take risks. It is now or never. Lord, please help me again on this one. I don't want to be scared anymore. I want to try and try until I would learn my lessons and be successful.

Worst Boss

I've got the worst boss in the world (o well, as far as I know!) and it drives me crazy and mad seeing and having his presence in the office EVERYDAY. I'm wishing he would have a flat tire, a migraine, an emergency meeting, anything that would distract him and would eventually not go to office. Many will say I'm mean, but yes I agree, I can be very mean sometimes. I know this is wrong having had said & thought of many negative things about him but one thing is sure, he's not the boss I've dreamed and imagined. 

Keeping This Feeling

A friend of mine just discovered and shared a job site in the Caribbean. I began applying and submitting my CV. And at that moment, I suddenly feel the excitement. I know something good is going to happen soon. I am always positive about it. I want to pursue what I want; I want to work abroad. I want to follow where God would lead me and life would take me.

 

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